What words could adequately describe the fresh attraction between a male and female? Ecstatic, mind-boggling, magical, mysterious, compelling, spellbinding? Those words help, yet fall far short of portraying fully what a man and woman feel when the first sparks begin to fly.
We know about that indescribable, tingling sensation. Bill was 17 and Sandra 14 when we started dating. Many times, we said “I love you,” though we could just as candidly have said, “I lust you.”
Amazingly, our relationship has gone through three stages–stages we believe every married couple can achieve:
Lust Stage
Realistic Stage
Deeper Romance and Support Stage
Please note: Ours has not been a fairy-tale marriage. In this video, we talk candidly about the numerous times we considered “splitsville.” To the surprise of many (including ourselves), we endured. We’re glad we did. That’s why we want to help you move from what Sandra calls “the bad times to the beautiful times.”
Just stay with us for 13 minutes, and then examine how you, too, can “live bigger, love better,” resulting in lifetime love.
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Everyone seems to go through the lust stage, even if you divorce and get married again. You often sit back and say hey what happened? I can say this about my husband, there is not a time I can remember since we got married he has not stroked my arm, touched my hand or rubbed my back. Each and every night he rubs my back until I fall asleep. I believe touching someone everyday whether it’s a hug or the touch of a hand is one of the loving ways to show affection as you get older. Not to mention it shows the other person you are paying attention and sharing yourself in other ways.
Hi Bill and Sandra: What a wonderful world of advice you both give here. I think that Ken (my husband) and I have been married almost as long as you have – 40 years in July.
We most definitely have gone thru all the stages you mentioned – but not like you, we did separate for one year after going thru years of terrible stress. However, that probably was the best thing that could have happened to us. Divorce was not an option -
because we love each other dearly. Sandra like you, I have had breast cancer (but
2 times) and I have been fine for 25 years now and like you Bill, Ken was my rock.
At the grand ages of 66 (moi) and Ken – 67 – both years young, we do have that deep
lovely love that only time together thru the tough and wonderful times can develop.
The one thing that I wish I had known prior to the separation was to be able to have a
very loving sense of humor about the things that come between you. I have that now and I can look at this dear,handsome husband of mine and appreciate all that we have gone thru together and of course enjoy the children and our angels (grandchildren)
I absolutely agree with both of you, don’t leave each other because of troubles -
life didn’t promise only easy times. Bill you are such a great guy and Sandra you are such a beautiful lovely lady – thank you for always sharing your wonderful videos with me. I hope Spring and Summer are kind to you both. Penny (Kolson)